Positivity….
I would say that I live my life pretty positively. But what do I mean by that?
Ok – my life certainly isn’t ‘’easy’’ at the minute but I do a few things that help me to have a better mindset. It’s not all just about Yoga and the other modalities I do. It’s a mindset that helps a lot too.
First of all I am, most of the time, thankful and grateful for what I do have. I currently rent an old school house – it is VERY cold during the winter and the boiler is beyond ancient. It is only two bedrooms (so therefore mine is the dining room) and I have no back garden which I would love.
But.... I have a roof over my head – and for that I’m grateful and thankful every day.
Things that I am thankful for in my ‘’too small rented house’’…
I can see the forests behind the house through my window
I can hear the church bells ring at midday at 7pm
I know the majority of my neighbours by name and what they do for a living (though most have retired)
I speak to villagers when I take my dog for a walk
My Mum and Dad live in the same village
I can see beautiful sunsets and sunrises
I have an enclosed backyard that I can sit in and that gets the sun most of the day
I have a parking space
There is an old, large trampoline for the children (donated by a friend - thank you)
See – not all bad.
So do ‘positive’ people have bad days? Yes, of course. It’s normal to feel off, angry, frustrated or whatever.
If we fail to express our emotions and ‘release’ them then we store them in our body and if we continually do that it will have an impact on our physical health….
Positive people don’t (or shouldn’t) ignore their emotions. They are valid.
Generally if I feel frustrated about something I have a few ‘beliefs’ that I work through in my head…
Nothing is permanent
Everything happens for a reason (sometimes this one is difficult – particularly when a person/animal is suffering/has suffered/has passed)…
I try to recognise why I feel frustrated – did I expect a different outcome? Did I try to control it in some way?
You can’t ‘force’ solutions/outcomes – the Universe has its own way of working
This too shall pass….
We do what we can with what we are given
It is true – a lot of people try and hold in their [negative] emotions that damage our body and mind long term.
BUT there is no such thing as a ‘negative’ emotion is there?
They are all emotions that we feel. Who decides if they are good or bad?
When children get frustrated I encourage letting it out – cry and let the tears release the trapped emotions in the body. Go into the Forest and scream and cry and shout – let it all out!
Once you have ‘processed’ the emotions and sat with it and dealt with it (which can takes minutes, hours or sometimes days) then you can ‘act or react’ to it.
If you can act in a constructive way without harming anyone then you should do so – if it is a path of truth.
Basically what I’m trying to say is that even positive people can’t be positive all the time.
They need their off days. They need to process how they are feeling – whatever it is.
Don’t forget – an emotion does not define who we are. We are NOT the emotion – we feel the emotion.
We can feel things if we remember to listen to our body. Remember gut instinct? Butterflies in the stomach? All those things are feelings….
So next time you are in a difficult situation and you feel overwhelmed – go and let it out.
Acknowledge it. Process it. Release it.
If you are struggling to release your feelings then try some Emotional Freedom Technique – it’s an amazing modality. It truly is.
But if you don’t fancy that – try something else detailed here if you haven’t already.
The main point about all of this is that try to live and love as honestly, truthfully, gratefully and thankfully as possible.
But don’t pretend you are fine when you are not – talk to somebody.
Process and release those trapped feelings.
Don’t become your own prison whether that’s physically or mentally.
Sending love to all – as always.
Namaste X
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